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Article by
John Cox, M.A. C/M

“When we discuss management of our Wildlife, because they are getting too close to our heavily populated areas, or cities, we assume we are the ultimate Rulers of Wilderness . . . We, in reality, need to start Managing Human’s comes into obvious necessity, and what they do in Wilderness areas’, and the destruction they cause, that caused the Wildlife to leave their homes, and move elsewhere. Hunan’s and their Social Narcissistic behaviors needs managed. The fact is, it involves an excessive, self-defensive investment in groups, or one’s own, perceived superiority and unique importance. . . We need to approach this very real Causation of Wildlife going Extinct.” — John Cox, M.A. C/M

Social narcissism, often manifesting as communal or collective narcissism,

involves an excessive, self-defensive investment in a group’s, or one’s own, perceived superiority and unique importance. While traditional narcissists seek personal glory, these individuals often present as exceptionally helpful or altruistic to gain validation. They exploit social connections for self-enhancement, frequently on social media. 

Key Aspects of Social/Communal Narcissism

• Communal Narcissism: Individuals believe they are the most helpful, caring, and giving person in their group, often acting as martyrs to gain admiration.
• Collective Narcissism: A group-level phenomenon where members exaggerate their group’s importance, often leading to in-group superiority and defensivenes
• Social Media Narcissism: Self-absorbed, performance-based content posted for likes, frequently seen in younger adults.
• Behavioral Traits: High need for validation, conditional altruism (giving to receive), lack of empathy, and high sensitivity to criticism. 

Characteristics of a Social Narcissist

• Manipulative Kindness: Acts of service are designed to draw attention and praise, such as frequent “saving the world” posts on social media.
• Exploitative Communication: Conversations are one-sided, often with the narcissist talking about their charitable deeds or self-importance.
• Hostile Defensiveness: When their image as a “perfectly good person” is threatened, they may become vindictive.
• Covert Behaviors: They may appear humble on the surface while quietly managing or manipulating people to maintain a superior image. 

Social Narcissism vs. Narcissistic Personality Disorder
While social narcissism is not a formal, separate diagnosis from Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), it describes a specific, socially-oriented manifestation of narcissistic traits. These individuals are often described as having poor social skills and high levels of conflict in relationships..

The Question is — How do we, as Advocates deal with it all . . .

1. Set Boundaries: Limit one-sided conversations and decline requests that feel manipulative.

2. Maintain Objectivity: Recognize that their altruism is often a performance for validation.

3. Manage Social Media Exposure: Avoid engaging with content that seeks high levels of public praise.